So you and your SO are at that stage where you guys wanna take your relationship to the next level.
After a few years of dating and getting really comfortable with each other, now comes the daunting part: meeting the parents.
But don’t worry, we’ve got you covered!
Here’s a checklist of what to do when you’re meeting his or her mom and dad for the first time!
1. Dress appropriately
We ain’t gonna lie, first impressions DO matter. So to make it to the parents’ good books, firstly please lose the skimpy outfits. Reserve the miniskirts and ‘short’ shorts for dates and the club, and opt for something more demure and chic. At the same time, you don’t have to be dressed to the nines, either. Instead, opt for a classic and simple look such as a pretty blouse and relaxed-fit skirt.
Remember, it’s not about ‘hiding’ who you really are, but to show respect and to make a lasting positive image for you and your partner.
2. Take a (tasty) gift along
If there’s anything we Asians love to receive as a gift, it has to be anything edible.
Take the time to gather info from your partner on what the family love to snack on and go gift shopping together.
Or if you really want to make a personal connection with them, how about getting them a yummy and filling snack that’ll sure to impress them?
Psst, we’re pretty sure they’ll going to love this fuwa-fuwa Japanese cheesecake!
It doesn’t have to be exorbitant or fancy, what’s important is that it comes from the heart!
3. Be gracious and open
The goal is to wow them with your personality, so treat it as you do a job interview. This is when you make use of all the loving anecdotes your partner has told you about them all these years.
Compliment their lovely home or the mum’s dress. Make sure the conversation will lead you to get a sense of how the family culture is like.
4. ….But not too open, please!
It doesn’t take an Einstein to expect that most of the conversation will revolve around your partner and your relationship. While sharing stories and wanting to know more about him can be tempting, but please bear in mind that there is a time and a place to tell people about the dirty details in your courtship and that time and place is not now!
Spare the intimate details and just share the small nuggets or infos that are approriate for the dinner table, like funny stories about his hobbies or the friends you guys hang out with together.
5. Don’t be a know-it-all
Just because you’re in a relationship with him, doesn’t mean you know him best.
So you know what’s his favourite dessert is or what colour ties he likes to wear, good for you. But his family has been with him through the rest of his life.
Don’t be a Miss Blah-blah-blah in front of his parents. Chances are you’re dealing with a very protective family who wants only the best for him and you can come off as being fiercely controlling (even when you don’t intend to).
Just relax, and go with the flow!